All you need to know about ‘Workplace Romance’

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Falling for someone at work is not something you can stop or control. The people you work with spend almost 8 hours or more with you, 5-days-a-week and they are your companions through the thick and thin of work life. Before you even know, that particular person who seems to care about you the most or you find genuinely attractive, has occupied the vacancy in your heart. The feelings grow until you have built up some courage to ask them out and if the feelings are mutual, they say yes. That’s workplace romance for you! As simple as it sounds, there are a lot of consequences, both positive and negative, and considerations that can’t be ignored when you start dating someone at work.

Loving anyone and getting loved back is a heavenly feeling, no matter where you two might have met. If your significant other works with you at the same office, you don’t have to wait throughout the day to see them after work. You can see them all day! You can share your grievances at the end of the day and they will know exactly what you are talking about. The time we spend on explaining the background of people and the dynamics when we tell stories from our day at work is saved. Every day, you are happy to go for work because that is where you are going to see him or her so your relationship becomes a source of motivation. 

All the things that are good about indulging in an office romance should not make you overlook the bads. You might decide to keep your relationship secret but it is impossible to hide it from everyone. It takes only one person before the whole office finds out, all thanks to gossips that spread out like wildfire, especially when it is about an affair. Not all people like witnessing all the public display of affection because they find it cute. They might even report it to HR and some companies have rules that prohibit employees from dating other employees and anyone who is associated with the company. 

People might even try to interfere with your relationship by criticising your significant other and making you think of things. It is important to remain focused as your relationship might distract you from the work that needs to be done. What about when you two split apart? The thing that made you wake up every day and go to work happily becomes a reason for you to not show up at times when you find it difficult to face him or her. You might even feel like quitting altogether and put your career in jeopardy. It is also very essential to keep in mind that dating someone who is your direct superior or works directly under you is a big no-no. When you date your boss, your promotion is frowned upon and people might think negatively even when your relationship is genuine. Your boss might actually become biased while writing your performance appraisal and the scope for improvement is compromised.

Author: Shruti Yadav

Studies Business Administration at Bennett University (2019-22)